My Thoughts on Therapy

“Nothing works for me!”

You feel like you’ve tried everything to no avail.

But when you dig a little deeper, it usually turns out that you keep doing the same thing over and over – and they still feel miserable.

It’s not your fault.

We are creatures of habit, we try what we know, talking to friends, clergy, family. But they all have a vested interest in making you feel better.

Feeling better is fleeting, and it doesn’t get to the root of the problem.

It’s my job as a therapist to help you discover the obstacles that keep getting in your way, even if it is uncomfortable. Discomfort is often the beginning of the pathway to healing and lasting happiness.

“In my family, we don’t air our dirty laundry.”

It’s not easy to walk in and talk to a stranger about your problems, but that’s the first step.

Many of my clients were taught not to be vulnerable with outsiders. When I begin therapy with a new client, I acknowledge that this is a new relationship. We have to get to know one another first, before either one of us takes risks.

Therapy is a process, and you, the client, are always in charge. After you’re comfortable with me, then the real work can begin. We will have formed a partnership to help you succeed in your goals.

It’s all about the relationship.

As human beings, we are hard-wired to connect with one another. Most people seek me out when they are struggling in their relationships at home or at work.

Sometimes they just don’t feel satisfied with life. I help people connect first with me, then with others.

I’ll help you improve your listening and communication skills to enhance your personal and professional relationships.

“No one understands me.”

When I was in therapy many years ago, I felt that way, too.

I felt alone, like no one knew or cared to know the real me. As it turned out, I didn’t really know myself!

I wore a mask all day long which made it impossible for others to get to know me. Therapy helped me feel comfortable with who I am and what I wanted to do – and gave me the courage to go out and do it!

I help people find their voices and act on their passions

As your therapist, I’ll help you discover what’s getting in the way of accomplishing your personal and professional goals.

This is not a comfortable process, and you will need to dig deep. The payoff is that you’ll feel empowered to make changes in your life and find the happiness you deserve.